Thursday, November 10, 2005

Twins

After putting aside concepts like love and money, perhaps the two most important things in life would be the marriage and the career... and if you put a lil bit of thought to it, there are some striking similarities..
Both are things that you get to hear about early in life, but get to experience only at a relatively later stage.. and you get to hear about it from anyone who's remotely elder to you.. there are so many versions... and when its happening to you, everyone has an interest in it and an advice to give on it... and anything 'different' from the norm is usually met with a frown...
in both cases, there are roughly two paths you can take - one that you want to do due to your desire and aspiration, and the other thats financially and socially seen as 'safe'..in both the cases,the exceptions are also similar... you might want to be a doctor/engineer etc and you get to do exactly that.. and you happen to love a girl/guy who meets all the conditions and succeeds in all the parameters that are set out by those who are supposed to decide your fate - parents, relatives etc, and can therefore marry him/her without a problem.. whether the path has been by choice or forced on one, both perhaps require a certain amount of compromise.. you might end up liking the career you had no specific interest initially, and you might end up liking your arranged spouse..in both the cases, you might realise after a point of time, that it is no longer what you want, and there's something or someone else that you really want to spend your time and energy on..and yes, getting fired in both cases, is a pain....
you want to maintain that correct balance between both, and yes, most importantly, you expect both to be some kind of anchor in your life, and to derive some joy out of the experiences..and like everything else, you know that both have to end, at some point of time..
until next time, identical or non identical??

21 comments:

Deez said...

dont most things in life have a parallel......:)

this one was good.

Prerona said...

also, they can merge or one can become a substitute for the other in some cases ...

Ash said...

Nice analogy !

pallavi said...

Though I might think that these two aspects have very little similarity... hmm... but your thoughts are interesting.. funny you should compare these two aspects...

NoHairBrain said...

been there done that :D

Parna said...

i read in a book by kamila shamsi - not-quite-twins, evening though born a minute apart and from the same womb.

career. well some screw up and land somewhere else. but there are some who will debate on this issue vociferously. those my dear are the losers in life :)- those who incidentally have something called a 'jobs satisfaction'

a marriage is somewhat like that. the trick is always to keep the challenge alive, so that you are satisfied at the end of the day but its never quite enough.

blokes said...

its about commitment- either u have it or u dont. then comes enthusiasm- do u have it or not! With enthusiasm comes creativity!

Shikha said...

wow..i have never heard of this comparison before..its always 'how career can affect your marriage'..(or vice versa)

phatichar said...

Hey, why didn't I think about this before?! (Guess I was too busy 'living' it) ;)

Brood Mode said...
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Brood Mode said...

nice! i like the parallels u've drawn

Arunima said...

like your idea but don't agree to it.

you can change your job hazaar times. what will happen if you change your spouse that many times?

Anjali said...

I guess it is because of the similarly central role they play in our lives that the two are often in conflict ... ??

the Monk said...

hmmmm...shouldn't love and marriage be related and similarly career and money?not necessarily related, but, mathematically speaking, correlated...the existance of one can have an effect on the other, I mean...

manuscrypts said...

deez: i have a feeling they do :)

prerona: yup, they could...

manuscrypts said...

ash: :)

pallavi: why funny??

manuscrypts said...

NHB: :)

parna: but wouldnt stasis and comfort be more important in a marriage??

manuscrypts said...

blokes: hmm, would tend to agree :)

shikha: yup, thats the usual case ..

manuscrypts said...

phatichar: we all are :)

brood mode : thank ye :)

manuscrypts said...

arunima: assuming hazaar was an exaggeration, nothing... lots of people have multiple one night stands.. some are happy, some arent..similar is the case with job hopping..

anjali: guess they are jostling for space....

manuscrypts said...

monk: yup, interesting line of thought, right? if we could develop a mathematic model :)